People are constantly trying to find common ground when they meet others to foster relationships. However, in doing this, people often make certain mistakes in building new friendships. Here is a how-to make friends and influence people summary:
Talk Openly and Honestly
When you meet someone new, the best way to make a good impression is to be open and honest with them. Do not try to hide your true personality or put on an act. Just be yourself and let the other person know the real you.
Many people are too focused on what they want to say instead of listening to what someone else says. The key is to let the person you are speaking with know that you are listening. It shows the other person that not only do you care but will also remember what they have said at a later time.
Be Approachable and Accepting
When you meet someone, be sure to smile and say hello. Be friendly and positive, and make an effort to get to know the other person. Talk about things you have in common, and be interested in what they say.
Always be willing and ready to listen and offer help in any way possible if it can be done quickly and easily. People love when others make them feel comfortable and welcomed, so if they ask for your, give it in a simple and timely manner.
Talk About Common Ground
When talking to someone new, find common ground as quickly as possible. If you both like the same band or TV show, for example, that is something to talk about right away. Be sure to ask open-ended questions that require more than just one-word answers so that the other person feels like they are important and needed in the conversation.
Do Not Judge Others
Many people can be scared off by anyone judging them, so it is best to keep what you think to yourself and offer support instead of criticism. Ask questions that will help the person open up about their problem and show that you care with actions such as a hug or handshake rather than just words.
Do Not Be Self-Centered
Although it is good to talk about yourself occasionally when first meeting someone, do not be too self-centered or long-winded. Instead of constantly talking about yourself, make the other person feel important by asking them questions and showing genuine interest in their responses.
Practice Makes Perfect
The more people you meet and the more experiences you have with different people, the better at making friends and influencing people you will become! Practice makes perfect! So do not give up if things go well the first few times. Keep trying, and eventually, it will come naturally to you.
Be Open About Your Feelings
If you like someone, make sure they know it. Being too shy can be a major barrier that prevents people from making friends and keeping friendships alive. It is okay to go up to someone and start a conversation or ask for their number. If the other person is not interested, they will let you know, and you will have lost nothing but a little bit of time you could have spent with someone else who might be more receptive to your friendship-making advances!
Pay Attention to Body Language
Sometimes it can be hard for people on the autism spectrum to pick up on social cues that are obvious to neurotypical individuals, such as body language and facial expressions. However, by paying attention to the other person’s body language, you can get a good idea of how they are feeling and whether or not they are interested in continuing the conversation.
After Making Friends, Do Not Disappear
It can be hard making friends, but once you do, it is important not to disappear into thin air. Blending in the background will create problems and potentially ruin any friendship that has been built and can lead to regret later on down the road.
Be Willing to Make the First Move
Not everyone out there is going to want to meet up with you. If you are looking for friends, be willing to make the first move. This may seem scary at first, but most people are flattered that someone is interested in being friends.”
Be Open to New Connections
If meeting new people makes you feel uncomfortable, try doing it through a common interest or hobby where it might be easier to approach another person without feeling insecure such as getting involved with a group or club. Sometimes having your guard down can help you become more comfortable and open other doors in friendships. One of the best ways to make friends is to get involved in activities you enjoy. Join a club, take a class, or volunteer. You will meet many people who share your interests and goals.
Dress the Part; You Are What You Wear
What people wear affects how others perceive them and who they will be, similar to other species projecting strength or vulnerability. The clothes you put on in the morning are like armor and can boost confidence contagious to those around you.
For a friendship to grow, both parties must take some form of initiative, whether that means being the one to call or text or even taking the first step in physical contact. Waiting too long might make the other person feel as if you are not interested. Share Personal Details Appropriately
When sharing personal details with someone, it is important to gauge how open they are to hear them. Going too fast can make people feel uncomfortable and ruin any chance of developing friendships. Start by sharing small information and work your way up to more personal stories.
Do Not Force It
Not every person out there will be a compatible friend for you. Do not force the issue if someone does not seem like they want to be friends with you. There are plenty of other people in the world that will be more than happy to be friends with you.
Making friends can be difficult, but it is worth it to have someone to share your experiences with. By following these tips, you will be on the right track to finding some amazing friends that will stick by your side no matter what! Remember to keep an open mind and heart and let yourself go with the flow. Friendships will come naturally.