How to Unfuck Yourself

Book : Unfu*k Yourself 

Author : Gary John Bishop     

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How To Unfuck Yourself

Author Says there are two kinds of talk you engage in every day: talking to others and talking to yourself. You might be one of those that insists, “I don’t talk to myself!” But, in fact, most of the conversations you have on any given day are with yourself.
 
Whether you’re introverted or extroverted, creative or practical, you spend huge swathes of your time talking to…YOU! You do it while exercising, working, eating, reading, writing, walking etc.
 
Studies show that we have over fifty thousand thoughts per day. Think of all the things you say to yourself that you’d rather not or that you try to overcome or defeat.
 
Author Says the language you use to describe your circumstances determines how you see, experience and participate in them and dramatically affect how you deal with your life and confront problems both big and small. 
 
The good news is, studies have continually found that positive self-talk can dramatically improve mood, boost confidence, increase productivity, and more. Much more. 
The bad news is, the reverse is also true: Negative self-talk can not only put us in a bad mood, it can leave us feeling helpless. It can make small problems seem bigger – and even create problems where none existed before.

Success and Failure

Sometimes negative self-talk leads to anger, sadness, or frustration that manifests in different or seemingly unrelated situations.
 
Author Says the more you tell yourself how hard something is, the harder it will actually seem. Unfortunately, since we are constantly listening to a steady stream of our automatic inner thoughts and have become so accustomed to the critical voice in our heads. 
 
Author Says the way we talk doesn’t only affect us in the moment. It can seep into our subconscious and become internalized, changing our thoughts and behavior in the long-term.
 
In real everyday terms, the way we talk to ourselves and others instantly shapes how we perceive life, and that same perception directly impacts our behavior right there in the moment.
 
Author Says the person who views success as if it were just around the corner will not only work his butt off to achieve it but be energized and alive to it and all the while acting on that fundamental view of success.
 
It’s entirely within our power to determine how we think about and talk about our problems. They can be a nuisance or a stepping stone. They can hold us down or lift us up.
 
Author Says we direct our thoughts in a way that consciously modifies these path ways for ourselves. And the easiest way to shape those thoughts is through conscious, decisive self-talk. The kind of talk that “cuts through” and takes control of your life.

I Am Willing

If you’re not willing to take the actions to change your situation – in other words, if you’re willing to put up with your situation – then whether you like it or not, that is the life you have chosen.
 
Author Says  willingness is a state in which we can engage with life and see a situation from a new perspective. It starts with you and ends with you. 
No one can make you willing, and you cannot move forward until you really are willing to make the next move.
 
Author Says Either you control your destiny, or your destiny will control you. Life won’t stop for your pauses and procrastinations. It won’t stop for your confusion or fear. It will continue right along without you.
 
Author Says there’s another way for your unwillingness to free you from the hamster wheel because sometimes it doesn’t matter what you ask yourself or how many times you’ve said it; you just can’t muster the willingness long enough to change anything.
 
“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has” – Epictetus
 
If you really want those things, then go get them! Begin today, lay out your strategy, deal with your reality and, most importantly, take the actions required and take them often!

Chart Your Path

Author Says one of the beautiful things about really taking a hard look at your life and goals is that doing so forces you to re-evaluate the path that leads to them.
Bear in mind we all tend to build things up in our minds to be a lot bigger than they really are.
 
When you start to view the world through the lens of what you’re willing and unwilling to pursue, rather than what it seems you want and don’t want, things start to become a lot clearer.
 
Author says when we understand what we are genuinely willing to do, we take back control over the subconscious thoughts and feelings that previously directed our behavior away from where we truly wanted to go.
 
Author says you have the ability to determine what your truth is and not from some subconscious glitch that keeps popping up from the past either but instead from your cognitive and conscious self, from the power of intervening on behalf of yourself.

I Am Wired to Win

You are a champion. You’ve knocked out goal after goal, cruising to an undefeated record. Everything you set your mind to comes true.
 
Author says the path you follow through life is the one dictated by your deepest, most inconspicuous thoughts. Your brain is constantly pushing you along that path, whether it’s the one you would consciously choose to take or not.
 
We are always winning at proving something. In the case above, you win at proving either you have no time or that you are a procrastinator or a loser by getting things done at the very last minute.

Find Your Winning Edge

Author Says if you want to lose weight, think about how you’ll need to change your diet, get more exercise and generally adopt more healthful, nurturing habits. Go through the daily kind of actions you’ll need to practice. Get it in reality.

Author says we are wired to win. You are wired to win. Define your game, embrace the challenge and strive to understand yourself in deeper and more meaningful ways.

Step out there. Trust yourself, give yourself fully to your vast capacity for victory. Set yourself the challenge of winning in new and exciting ways. Demand your greatness of yourself.

Looking to the future

Author says face your problems as they come, one by one, give them the attention they need and move on. Bundling them all together into a morass of confusion and letting them overwhelm you just won’t help. It takes precision, patience and discipline of thought.

The more we try to stay comfortable today, the more uncomfortable we’ll be tomorrow. There really is no destination, there is only exploring, exploring and exploring.

If we put ourselves in uncomfortable situations, maybe we’ll look awkward. People will think we’re “weird”. If we push our limits and try to achieve new things, maybe we’ll fail. People will think we’re a “failure”.

Unfuck Yourself  Quotes : – 

“This is a conversational slap from the universe to wake you up to your true potential, to unfuck yourself and get spectacularly into your life.

“Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears.”

“Stop blaming luck. Stop blaming other people. Stop pointing to outside influences or circumstances.”

“Circumstances don’t make the man; they only reveal him to himself.” – Epictetus

“Where the willingness is great, the difficulties cannot be great”.

“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has” – Epictetus

“The truth of it is, you are winning at the life you have.”

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts. Therefore, guard accordingly, and take that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.” – Marcus Aurelius

“Everyone has their problems, and life isn’t always perfect. It never will be.”

“If all our misfortunes were laid in one common heap whence everyone must take an equal portion, most people would be content to take their own and depart” – Socrates

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light” – Aristotle

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